Interestingly enough, it is anger. Anger, which is a secondary emotion, is a way of protecting oneself from the stress and pain that is often associated with the Holiday Season. So, in interest of good self care, during the Holidays it is even more important to remember to take time each day to take a deep breath, stop, and enjoy the moment. Read something, talk to a friend, listen to music, something you truly enjoy to re-charge briefly will make a dramatic difference in your day.
The hassles of everyday life these days can cause a lot of stress at work and home, and even more so during the Holiday Season. Think about stress as a continuum with really low stress equaling boredom, but the healthy amount of stress allows most people to function in a state of optimal cognitive efficiency. That correct amount of stress provides you with energy & motivation to accomplish a goal or task. However a high levels stress can trigger ANXIETY or ANGER with the “fight, flight, or freeze” response of neurochemicals.
Stress is in the most basic sense a mismatch between the demands in our lives and the resources we have to handle with those demands. Our perception of situations and demands we face varies significantly from person to person, so it is important to remember that it is the way we perceive and respond that is important. Notice I used the word respond not react, in stressful situations especially, pause… think then respond. As much as possible avoid reacting.
Stress Management is one of the main cornerstones of a solid Emotional Intelligence / Anger Management Program. That is one of the core domains in our evidence-based, skill-building approach that has been helping individuals, couples, and teens get such great results. Developing a deeper understanding and practicing the skills of Emotional Intelligence, Enhanced Communication, and Stress Management will help you regain control of yourself and your Anger. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a relatively new field of study but over the last two decades there has been extensive research.
At North Valley Anger Management Consultants, we have a program that will be customized to meet your individual needs and help you achieve your goals. For a free consultation, call us today at 1-888-992-6479 or 1-818-570-2424 or check us out on the web at http://www.nvamc.com/
Happy Holidays from Everyone at North valley Anger Management Consultants