Sunday, March 11, 2012

Anger in Your Relationship: When to Get Help

Anger, left uncontrolled, can be one of the most dangerous and destructive components in a relationship. Often, both hetero and same sex couples struggling with anger problems are unaware of why their relationship continues to deteriorate. Although, a couple struggling with anger may be committed to one another, knowing when it is time to reach out for help can play an important part in beginning to heal the relationship. If your relationship is falling apart, due to anger management issues, the following list of symptoms and behaviors may help you identify when to reach out for help:

1. Feeling controlled or micromanaged by your partner

2. Feeling afraid of your partner at anytime (get help immediately)

3. Unable to express wants, needs, or desires out of fear of partner rejection

4. Fear of physical or verbal attack (get help immediately)                           

5. Unable to communicate without partner getting angry

6. Children being effected by arguing in the home (can't focus in school)

7. Children feeling afraid of parents

8. Children feeling they have to protect either parent

A loved ones anger may be a symptom of a deeper mental health health concern requiring professional assistance, or it maybe a communication concern that anger management classes combined with relational therapy may be able to address. However, the first and most important step is knowing when to reach out and ask for help. If you, or someone you love, are dealing with any these symptoms/behaviors in a relationship, please seek help immediately. Moreover, if you are in a relationship and are feeling afraid of your partner, or your children are afraid of a parent, or fear for a parent, seek help immediately by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. No one has to live with anger between themselves and a loved one, and no one should ever live in fear. Help is available 24 hours a day. For more information, or a for free consultation, please call 1-888-992-6479 or visit our website at