Sunday, August 19, 2012

Why Hater's Hate: Moving Past the Anger

Hate. For most people this word conjures up more images and memories than perhaps any other. The bully who made you miserable as a child; a friend you once trusted; an ex lover, a parent, a sibling…maybe even yourself. Hate comes from anger, and anger from the instinct to protect ourselves from pain. In short, anger and hate originate from a primitive defense rooted in the brains need to automatically protect itself from perceived threats. When it comes down to it, feeling angry and hateful is easier and safer than feeling sadness, betrayal, disappointment, fear, grief or loss.

Fixing this is simple, but it is not easy. It takes a willingness to recognize and change negative thoughts and behavior patterns, and the ability to identify and work through the experiences that caused the hate and anger so you can let it go. Remember that hate is easy, but forgiveness is hard. It is up to you to decide to forgive and move on to being a healthier, happier you.

When you are ready to begin to the healing, we can help. North Valley Anger Management Consultants offers evening and weekend classes to help you over come the anger and hate. For more information, or a free consultation, please visit our website at or call us at 1-888-992-6479 today. Anger hurts, we can help stop the hurt and begin the healing.