Edward Furlong & Milton Bradley Demonstrate The Need For Anger Management

Edward Furlong & Milton Bradley Demonstrate the Need for Anger Management

Anger is one of the most misunderstood and overused of human emotions. Anger is not a planned action – it’s a reaction to an inner emotion. Anger is energy. It serves a purpose by giving people the drive and determination to cope with the often difficult situations we find ourselves in. Anger helps discharge tension. If handled well, anger can help resolve conflict and improve relationships with others. Anger is an easy emotion to show; everyone gets angry.

However, what everyone doesn’t do is explode with public displays of person-directed anger in their relationships, custody disputes, or sporting events. While anger is a normal human emotion, the displays of verbal aggression and anger recently demonstrated by Furlong represents unhealthy anger, which destroys interpersonal relationships as well as the reputation of the perpetrator.

There are six situations in which anger is unacceptable in a civil society:

1). When it is too intense.

2). When it occurs too frequently.

3). When it lasts too long.

4). When it leads to person-directed aggression or violence.

5). When it destroys interpersonal relationships.

6). When it has health implications.

For help dealing with unhealthy levels of anger or rage, please visit our website or call us for a free  consultation.

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Safely Coping With Holiday Anger & Stress

One may think the Holiday Season is everybodys  favorite time of year. The weather is cooling. The leaves are falling; the food is getting richer and more decadant. It’s the time of smiling faces, warm cozy fires, hearts full of joy, and families filled with love and togetherness right?

As pretty a picture as the media would try to sell us, we all know the truth. The Holidays are full of family stress, anger, conflict, and pressure. In fact, some of the the following stress filled messages may be running through your mind right now. What will we make for dinner? Who is coming over? What is the budget looking like for presents this year? How do I stop myself from getting angry at the in-laws? Where will my family stay? Is there enough space in our house? Will the kids actually let me sleep today? Do I really want to have to talk to my brother, mother in law, cousin, other family members I don't like ?

With all these stresses and pressures a short temper, anger, and cranky snappy responses are bound to arise. All it takes is the smallest thing to set us off during these times. Sometimes maladaptive coping, such as over indulgence in food and drink can seem like the only way to get through the season.

Coping with the season in a positive and safe way is not easy, but it can be done.

Often, it is the the little things that help the most.  Just remember to breathe, the holidays don’t last forever. Try to keep in mind that even with all the build up, expectations and disappointment that often come with the season, ultimately they are just days, and you can get through them just like you do every other day that has come, or is yet to come. Just be aware of your mood and tone of voice, your body language, and that other peoples behavior is not personal. Another thing to keep in mind is that alcohol only adds to the problem, and can be down right dangerous. Keeping the holiday cheer in check will help keep the anger and stress in check too. It helps when you realize that everyone else is just as stressed as you are. You are not alone; just smile, relax and try to enjoy what you can. Remember, you are the only one who can keep yourself safe, sober, and under control.

For information and assistance coping with holiday stress, please visit our website at www.nvamc.com  or call us toll free at 1-888-992-6479 today.

Happy Holidays from North Valley Anger Management Consultants!

Anger in Your Relationship: When to Get Help

Anger, left uncontrolled, can be one of the most dangerous and destructive components in a relationship. Often, both hetero and same sex couples struggling with anger problems are unaware of why their relationship continues to deteriorate. Although, a couple struggling with anger may be committed to one another, knowing when it is time to reach out for help can play an important part in beginning to heal the relationship. If your relationship is falling apart, due to anger management issues, the following list of symptoms and behaviors may help you identify when to reach out for help:


1. Feeling controlled or micromanaged by your partner

2. Feeling afraid of your partner at anytime (get help immediately)

3. Unable to express wants, needs, or desires out of fear of partner rejection

4. Fear of physical or verbal attack (get help immediately)                           

5. Unable to communicate without partner getting angry

6. Children being effected by arguing in the home (can't focus in school)

7. Children feeling afraid of parents

8. Children feeling they have to protect either parent

A loved ones anger may be a symptom of a deeper mental health health concern requiring professional assistance, or it maybe a communication concern that anger management classes combined with relational therapy may be able to address. However, the first and most important step is knowing when to reach out and ask for help. If you, or someone you love, are dealing with any these symptoms/behaviors in a relationship, please seek help immediately. Moreover, if you are in a relationship and are feeling afraid of your partner, or your children are afraid of a parent, or fear for a parent, seek help immediately by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. No one has to live with anger between themselves and a loved one, and no one should ever live in fear. Help is available 24 hours a day. For more information, or a for free consultation, please call 1-888-992-6479 or visit our website at http://www.nvamc.com/.